Politically incorrect questions by Joumana Haddad

When will a woman approaching a man stop being considered sluttish, while a man approaching a woman is simply considered 'self-confident'?

When will a woman who loves sex stop being called a nymphomaniac, while a man who loves sex is simply called 'virile'?

When will a woman cheating on a man stop being judged as dissolute, while a man cheating on a woman is simply justified by his 'polygamous genes' ?

When will a woman dressed sexily stop being deemed as provocative (thus inviting harassment or even rape), while a man dressed sexily is simply deemed 'stylish'?

When will a fifty-year-old woman dating a twenty-five-year-old man stop being critiqued as pathetic, while a fifty-year-old man dating a twenty-five-year-old woman is simply 'well-maintained'?

When will a successful woman stop being accused of sleeping her way up, while a successful man is simply bright and 'achieved'?

When will a single forty-year-old woman stop being depicted as a distressed spinster, while a single forty-year-old man is portrayed as an 'eligible bachelor'?

When will a woman who sexually harasses a man stop being estimated crazy, while a man sexually harassing a woman is simply 'weak-willed'?

When will a woman who enjoys watching male strippers and porn stop being seen as an oddity, while a man who enjoys watching female strippers and porn is seen as 'the norm'?

When will a woman checking out a man's arse stop being described as offensive, while man checking out a woman's arse is described as an 'admirer of beauty'?

And the last, most important question of all:
When will we stop asking ourself these questions?
VALIE EXPORT with Peter Hassmann
Action Pants: Genital Panic
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This series of screenprints relates to a performance in which EXPORT reportedly walked into an experimental art-film house in Munich wearing crotchless trousers and a tight leather jacket, with her hair teased wildly, and roamed through the rows of seated spectators, her exposed genitalia level with their faces. Challenging the public to engage with a "real woman" instead of with images on a screen, she illustrated her notion of "expanded cinema," in which the artist's body activates the live context of watching. EXPORT's defiant feminist action was memorialized in a picture taken the following year by the photographer Peter Hassmann in Vienna. EXPORT had the image, in which she holds a machine gun, screenprinted in a large edition and fly-posted it in public squares and on the street.
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Pa·tri·arch·y (pātrēˌärkē) noun

-a system of society or government in which a demographic is head of the family and descent is traced through the demographic line.

-a system of society or government in which a demographic holds the power and other demographics are largely excluded from it.

-a society or community organized on patriarchal lines.
Continuing, Irigaray analyzes the position of women in male-dominated societies through a Marxist lens, writing that the system of organizing society by (fathers’) proper names is a basic form of the subordination of “nature” to “labor” and translation of “nature” into use value and exchange value that Marx believed characterized capitalism (800-1). In this system, men exploit the women without providing compensation, because such compensation would “shatter” the male monopoly over the proper name and the power it symbolizes (801). In Marx’s words, men are therefore “producer-subjects” who determine the value of women and exchange them, and women are “commodity-objects” relegated to a passive role in the exchange process (801). Additionally, since capitalist “wealth” favors accumulation of objects over their intrinsic usefulness, a woman’s value is determined by something extrinsic to herself—an exchange value in “gold or phalluses” applied to her because she is “a product of man’s ‘labor’” (801-2). “[W]omen are thus two things at once: utilitarian objects and bearers of value,” split into a “matter-body” and an intangible “envelope” of “value” (802). Because the “value” of a woman has nothing to do with anything intrinsic to herself, she becomes “a mirror of value of and for man,” alienated from her own body, and becomes “the material alibi” used to facilitate relations between men. Without at least two men to “invest (in) her,” a woman can have no value. In short, women are fetish-objects (802-6).
From here, Irigaray discusses the three roles available to women in this system of value: mother, virgin, and prostitute (807-8). Defining male sexuality as the desire to appropriate nature and “make it (re)produce,” Irigaray compares man’s relations with women to his relations with the “natural” (807). It is the need to “transcend” nature and subordinate it to technology that therefore governs man’s relationship with women. It follows that the mother, representative of “productive nature,” is subject to the control of the father, “marked” with his name and “enclosed in his house,” excluded from exchange among men (807). In contrast, the virginal woman is “pure exchange value,” having no existence of her own beyond that “envelope” of intangible possibility determined by men. Once defloration destroys that envelope, she enters into the realm of the mother and is thus associated with the natural. She is “removed from exchange,” converted into pure use value (807-8). Finally, the prostitute has both exchange value and use value. It is her use that is exchanged. According to Irigaray, her “nature” is seen as “used up,” therefore rendering her an appropriate object of exchange among men (808). In all of these roles, women are the objects of men’s pleasure and have no right to their own (808).

In conclusion, Irigaray suggests that the division of women into “natural” bodies and intangible bodies of male-imposed “value” leaves them no voice of their own. They are “objects” who “mimic” the language of men that defines them (809). Sacrificing access both “to speech and even to animality” to be part of a society that commodifies them, they are compensated only through oppression and “branding” with the proper name of the father (810). Even men, the seeming beneficiaries of this system, are reduced to “the average productivity of their labor” by it (810). Therefore, she suggests women construct a new system, contrary to the current “phallocratic” one, “socializing in a different way the relation to nature, matter, the body, language, and desire” (811).
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Summary of "Women on the Market" by Luce Irigaray
SHE'S TALL BUT I'D FUCK HER.
I WAS 13 AND ON MY WAY HOME FROM SCHOOL. BEING SEXUALIZED MADE ME FEEL VULNERABLE, DISGUSTING AND NOT IN CONTROL OF MY OWN BODY. HE TALKED ABOUT ME LIKE I WAS JUST SOMETHING HE COULD USE FOR HIS OWN PLEASURE. I AM NOT HERE TO PLEASE YOU. NO GIRL SHOULD EVER EXPERIENCE THAT KIND OF STUFF. BUT THEY DO. ALL OF MY FEMALE FRIENDS HAVE BEEN CATCALLED MY SISTER HAS BEEN CATCALLED MY MOTHER HAS BEEN CATCALLED EVEN MY FUCKING GRANDMA.

By Kendall Goodwin, October 12th 2012

We as a culture are in need of a serious re-education on the subject of holistic gender equality and the gravity of catcalling, but that re-education may be a long time coming so here is the Cliff Notes version: Catcalls are not compliments. Catcalls are offensive, and, frankly, obnoxious. Men, women do not appreciate or enjoy being catcalled, and catcalling will do nothing to endear you to the woman you fancy. If your intent is to compliment, there are plenty of ways to do so that aren’t offensive and don’t incorporate a whoop or a whistle… be creative. And most importantly, when in doubt, keep it to yourself.
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Hyper-sexualisation: the realities of my black, female body
MODEL OF KEY OBJECTIFICATION THEORY TENETS
FREDRICKSON & ROBERTS 1997
SEXUAL OBJECTIFICATION
Objectification Theory: Toward Understanding Women's Lived Experiences and Mental Health Risks
Sexual Objectification of Women: Advances to Theory and Research
Dawn M. Szymanski,1 Lauren B. Moffitt,1 and Erika R. Carr1
We examined body objectification, self-esteem, and relationship satisfaction differences between college women and exotic dancers and the relationships among these measures for both groups. Forty-three college women and 40 female exotic dancers completed a questionnaire that assessed each of these constructs. Relative to college women, exotic dancers reported less relationship satisfaction, more body surveillance, and a greater prioritizing of body attractiveness over physical competence. Relationship satisfaction and the prioritizing of appearance over physical competence varied for the heterosexual and bisexual dancers. For exotic dancers, the body objectification measures of surveillance and shame were negatively, and body control was positively, related to self-esteem; body shame was negatively related to relationship satisfaction. For college women, higher levels of body surveillance and body shame were associated with higher prioritizing of physical attractiveness relative to physical competence. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2007 APA ) (journal abstract)

Authors; Gloria Cowan, Shaan James, Daniel M. Downs
Body Objectification, Self-Esteem, and Relationship Satisfaction: A Comparison of Exotic Dancers and College Women
Now, I know, in this room, some of you are the women I have been talking about. I know that. People around you may not. I am going to ask you to use every single thing you can remember about what was done to you -- how it was done, where, by whom, when, and, if you know -- why -- to begin to tear male dominance to pieces, to pull it apart, to vandalize it, to destabilize it, to mess it up, to get in its way, to fuck it up. I have to ask you to resist, not to comply, to destroy the power men have over women, to refuse to accept it, to abhor it and to do whatever is necessary despite its cost to you to change it.”
― Andrea Dworkin
“Many women, I think, resist feminism because it is an agony to be fully conscious of the brutal misogyny which permeates culture, society, and all personal relationships.”
― Andrea Dworkin, Our Blood: Prophecies and Discourses on Sexual Politics
“Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.' (Leviticus 18:22). That means simply that it is foul to do to other men what men habitually, proudly, manfully do to women: use them as inanimate, empty, concave things; fuck them into submission; subordinate them through sex.”
― Andrea Dworkin, Right Wing Women
“Female knowledge of objectification usually stops at a necessary but superficial understanding: beauty is rewarded and lack of beauty is punished. The punishments are understood as personal misfortune; they are not seem as systematic, institutional, or historical. Women do not understand that they are also punished through sexual use for being beautiful; and women do not understand the lengths to which men go to protect themselves and their society from contamination by ugly women who do not induce a lustful desire to punish, violate, or destroy, though men manage to punish, violate, or destroy these women anyway.”
― Andrea Dworkin
When objectification occurs it dehumanizes the individual and turns them into an object that is to be used for someone else’s pleasure. Women in westernized cultures are particularly subject to this type of treatment and the detrimental effects it can cause (Harper & Tiggemann, 2008). Often as a result, objectification is turned inward and the individual views themselves as an object, creating a state of chronic self-surveillance. This effect is identified as self-objectification and the psychological ramifications for this occurrence is varied and includes: body shame, disrupted flow of consciousness, depression, anxiety, sexual dysfunction, and disordered eating (Fredrickson & Roberts, 1997).
-The self Objectification theory of women (Bartleby research)
In one study, women who were asked to complete math problems while wearing a bathing suit scored lower on the exam and higher on the self-objectification and body shame scales than women who wore a crew neck sweater and pants (Fredrickson et al., 1998).
Dworkin quotes
objectification quotes
Previous research finds that both men and women perceive sexualized women as lacking in certain human qualities such as mental capacity and moral status.

We find that women perceived as more open to casual sex are attributed less mental capacity and less moral status. We also find that participants tend to associate attractiveness with greater mental and moral status in women, but we find only limited evidence that perceived age influences objectification.
Recent evidence shows that the learned automatic response to objectify women has become culturally ingrained to such a great extent that choosing not to objectify women depletes self-regulatory resources and decreases performance in cognitive tasks.
(Perpetuation of sexual objectification: The role of resource depletion.
Tyler JM, Calogero RM, Adams KE
Br J Soc Psychol. 2017 Jun; 56(2):334-353.)

Objectification becomes especially harmful if women internalize these judgements and self-objectify, or consider themselves first as bodies over other personal characteristics
(1. Fredrickson BL, Roberts T-A. Objectification Theory: Toward Understanding Women’s Lived Experiences and Mental Health Risks. Psychology of Women Quarterly 1997; 21(2):173–206. 10.1111/j.1471-6402.1997.tb00108.x)

Women who are objectified are viewed as less than fully human, perceived to have less of a mind for thoughts or decisions and viewed as less deserving of moral treatment by others [8]. This denial of mental capacity and moral status has been found to have negative repercussions for objectified women, including increasing men’s willingness to commit sexually aggressive actions towards them [9], and decreasing perceived suffering in cases of sexual assault [10–12].
8. Heflick NA, Goldenberg JL, Cooper DP, Puvia E. From women to objects: Appearance focus, target gender, and perceptions of warmth, morality and competence. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology 2011; 47(3):572–81. 10.1016/j.jesp.2010.12.020
9.Perceptions of low agency and high sexual openness mediate the relationship between sexualization and sexual aggression.
Blake KR, Bastian B, Denson TF
Aggress Behav. 2016 Sep; 42(5):483-97.
10. Loughnan S, Haslam N, Murnane T, Vaes J, Reynolds C, Suitner C. Objectification leads to depersonalization: The denial of mind and moral concern to objectified others. Eur. J. Soc. Psychol. 2010; 40:709–717. 10.1002/ejsp.755v
11.Reduced empathic responses for sexually objectified women: An fMRI investigation.
Cogoni C, Carnaghi A, Silani G
Cortex. 2018 Feb; 99():258-272.
Men who endorse social hierarchies are more likely to objectify women when their own power is threatened, according to new research published in the journal Psychology of Women Quarterly.

A third experiment with another 138 heterosexual men found that the tendency to objectify women occurred when men were subordinated to a female boss, but not a male boss.
We should think critically about how we look at women and also how we use them to relax, relieve stress, and entertain ourselves as if they are commodities. Women have more to offer, despite what we have been trained to think and the constant messages we receive from pop culture and other social cues. Whether in the music and entertainment industry, corporate America, communities of faith, or on the street corner, women are treated by men as objects or mere body parts. This has become widely accepted and embraced by mainstream society. For instance, magazines, music videos, advertisements, and commercials exploit women and their bodies. Those images we see on a daily basis condition us to see body parts instead of human beings with opinions, emotions, thoughts, and ideas. Also, take a look at fashion trends for women. Mini-skirts, low-rise jeans, thongs (that show), push-up bras, halter tops, tight-fitting clothing, etc. are all meant to bring more attention to women’s body parts. Ironically, you can often find replicas in children’s clothing stores as well. In some of these stores you can purchase pants for a two-year-old girl with sayings like “cutie pie” or “honey” embroidered across the buttocks. Here we have clothing, supposedly suitable for an adult woman, made for a child. This goes to show how early body parts become the focal point on the body of a female. Also, keep in mind that the driving force behind many of these companies is a man, most likely a well-meaning man.


The problem with well meaning men
Research indicates that ONE IN FOUR women have been victims or rape or attempted rape, and more than half of college women have experienced some form of sexual victimization. ( Fisher, Cullen and turner, 2000; White, Donat & Bondurant, 2001)
Perhaps the conservative woman who plays down her sexuality feels liberated. Yet, there is a price for this freedom. Success in dating or meeting a husband or partner, and even securing a job, may be a challenge given the overwhelming investment in the objectification of women. The collective socialization of manhood teaches men, good and abusive, to consider a woman’s body parts before her humanity.
As long as the political power structure remains controlled by men, I see little hope for change in the basic attitudes that so many men have towards women.
Superman is an Arab - Joumana Haddad p86
Think about it: nothing its more intimidating/ castrating for a macho than a woman who doesn't need him to cater to her needs. That would hit the roots of machismo and topple the patriarchal institution upside down. Plus, real men should really feel more reassured then threatened by this evolution: is there anything more gratifying than the certainty that a woman needs them for them, not for the financial security they can provide?

Superman is an Arab - Joumana Haddad p87
Another major solution to this fatal misunderstanding could occur by rejecting the black and white categorization, acknowledging our dual natures and accepting that both men and women display and encompass 'masculine' and 'feminine' behaviors and traits. Gloria Steinem asserts that, 'The woman a man most fears is the women within himself' I would add that the man a woman most fears is the man within herself. Once we start embracing the 'other' that we hold inside us, this other would cease to be the enemy.
Superman is an Arab- Joumana Haddad p86